What’s the fastest way to learn to run?
Develop a system that gets you to do the deed without needing superpowers or willpower.
Essentially jump into a system where you have no choice!
Until 6 months ago I was struggling with finishing things!
It had gotten to a point where my sense of self-worth was crashing like the market after the Covid lockdown announcement
Yes! I had tried using multiple mental models to try and psycho-workaround the issue!
But nothing worked!
That was until last month…
When I got out of my head
And hired a coach.
We meet every day at 6:00 PM for 5 days a week to essentially stare at the to-do list of the things that I want but am avoiding for some reason!
This arrangement makes sure that I can’t deny that I am avoiding something.
And it’s only when you stop denying that the problem exists can you actually thinking how to fix it.
You can analyze it to hell and beyond!
But…
Nothing will move!
Unless you jump into a system where you can finally stop analyzing and just start ‘doing the due’.
Keep your eyes open!
Sure!
But don’t just keep your eyes open move your ass too.
I know that’s easier said than done!
But when you remove the option and put yourself in a spot where you ‘just have to DO IT‘. That’s when the magic begins to happen.
Because that’s when your brain finally gets it that avoiding is not a choice anymore.
The bulls have been released!
And…
To stay alive you must start running!
NOW!!
You’ll have to do the ‘thinking‘ on the run!
The result?
Now you are not thinking about
- Will I be able to run?
- How much weight will lose after a month of running?
- Is running is good for my knees?
- What is my top speed?
- Will there be bumps along the way?
These questions are not real possibilities, just your brain doing everything it can to avoid something new and potentially uncomfortable!
But… now the bulls have been released!
So you are running for dear life!
When it all ends you figure out – how useless the 3 months of ‘analyzing’ were.
And the last 3 minutes is irrefutable proof that you are a pretty darn fast runner!
But… risking death to find out that you can actually run fast is stupid!
Cute but not practical!
I know!
And you’re missing the point!
It’s a fucking metaphor!
You don’t have to literally die!
Just create a do or die situation
If you don’t understand what I mean, here’s a practical, real-life example –
For me, procrastination had gotten to a point where
It became my habit to leave things halfway!
I had analyzed 300 angles but failed to understand why it was happening, or how to reverse it. I absolutely hated it! And I started hating myself for it but it got to a point where I had started to accept it as part of who I am.
Then I hired a coach whose job was
- To get me to make to do lists
- To confront me when I don’t do something that I planned on doing.
- To make sure that I like out a decent amount of money every time I procrastinated.
- Also if I failed a few times back to back then the contract would end and I would lose all the money that I had already paid upfront!
That is an artificial do-or-die situation involving a good amount of money.
Why did it work?
- I can’t analyze my way out of the discomfort. Because I have a smart coach to show me and objective fact check mirror when I do
- I wanted to do something, I wrote it down and now the to-do list with the pending status is irrefutable proof that I’ve been avoiding it!
That 1-hour call became my ‘bulls‘ that gets me to see the monster in front of my eyes that is ACTUALLY KILLING ME SLOWLY
My habit of avoiding some discomfort by hiding behind perfectionism and procrastinating endlessly.
And now that I see the monster I must start running.
I can no longer just stay in the comfort zone of my head, conjuring up monsters that CAN possibly kill me!
The most effective way to get out of your head and stop imagining monsters is – release the actual bulls!
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